“And you fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord” (Eph. 6:4) (NKJV)
There is nobody that is born as a good father. Fathers are made, they are not born. The type of father a man eventually becomes is a function of his personal experiences within his immediate or extended family, when growing up.
The attribute of fatherhood has nothing to do with a man’s ability to procreate. To be a good father, he must know and understand the thoughts, ways (Isa. 55:8-9) and attributes that makes God a Father.
God loves His children (1 John 4:19). God did not wait for us to meet His expectations before He first loved us. Fathers must also learn to love their children first, before expecting them to love him in return (Rom. 5:8). They must learn to love their children unconditionally, if they want to get the best out of them.
Love is in its demonstration, but to show that you love your child as a father, does not imply that you must give them whatever they ask for, especially when it would lead them astray. As fathers, we are to rebuke our children from going astray (Matt. 19:21) or when they have missed the mark (Heb. 12:6).
Fathers are also entrusted with a lot of responsibilities especially as it concerns their children. Fathers are not to punish their children in anger, but in love. The Christian father has a role to play in nurturing, training, counseling and admonition of the child in accordance with the word of God, especially at home (Eph. 6:4).
In every home, the father must be a role model to his children. He must lead by example, teaching them, the word of God, and also about the importance of work, integrity, respect and honesty.
Fathers, also have a responsibility to fear and be submitted to the Lord, knowing that outside God, they cannot succeed in this world. Fathers must also not neglect their primary responsibility to provide for their own family (1 Tim. 5:8).
God wants fathers to have this attitude towards every child, whether they are their biological father or not. This is the responsibility of being a father to all children. We are loved by God, therefore fathers are also expected to love others because God is the perfect Father (2 Cor. 1:3 & 11:31, Eph. 1:3 & 3:14, Col. 1:3), for them to model.